Archive for: January 2013

Decide to be there and communicate

How to bring balance to your family

Article provided by Barry Van Over, Premier Martial Arts

 

Many parents frequently feel burned out and overwhelmed with the amount of work it takes to juggle their busy work/family/spouse/home duties. These parents may at times feel guilty for not being able to properly balance their life. This guilt, given adequate time and excessive fatigue can lead to feelings of resentment or anger. Read more →

Making the decision to get help

By Kathryn Rea Smith, PH.D.

 

When my younger son asked me how I figured out that I wanted to be a psychologist, I told him about a formative experience from my adolescent years. “I was having some problems and saw a psychologist who really helped me.” It was partly based upon this positive experience of being in therapy as a teenager that I decided to become a psychologist myself. Since that first time I decided to get help, I have seen other therapists over the years and am grateful to each one of them for the assistance provided. When I recommend to someone that they decide to seek therapy for themselves or their child, I do so as both a psychologist and as someone who has firsthand knowledge of the benefits of being a patient. Read more →

The ultimate choice

Provided by Titanic Museum Attraction

 

Reverend John Harper

The reverend John Harper, his 6 year old daugter Nana, and Jessie Leitch. All were aboard the Titanic, but only Nana and Miss Leitch survived.

Throughout our lifetime, each one of us is likely to make a decision that, in that moment, feels like a matter of life or death. While most of these decisions will fall short of a true mortal dilemma, the time may come for any one of us to be faced with such a choice.

Through historical and personal accounts of those people who have been faced with a true life or death moment, we can see how we, as a human race, are capable of responding and, hopefully, learn something from their experience. The following from the archived stories of passengers aboard the ill-fated Titanic is one example:

One hundred years have passed since Titanic’s first and only voyage.  Yet, even now, what we’re told about her crew and passengers—especially the children—often begins with the moment they stepped aboard ship.  Truth is, most of their lives began long before Titanic.  Each life’s story was unique:  Some were complicated, others surprising, but all were inspiring and full of hope.

The Reverend John Harper’s was just that.  Born to devout Baptists in the Scottish village of Houston, John was drawn to the church and its teachings at an early age.  He preached the gospel as a teenager on village street corners.  He believed our souls’ life mission is preordained, and that his was to serve God and help others.

Along Harper’s pilgrimage of faith, he married and became a father, a church pastor and, sadly, a young widower.  Invited to preside over a series of revival services in Chicago, he boarded Titanic with his beloved 6-year-old daughter, Nan, and her Aunt Jessie.  Before they sailed, a parishioner warned Rev. Harper the voyage would end badly, but he replied his destiny was to sail Titanic.  Whatever happened would be God’s will.

At about midnight Tuesday, April 14, 1912, Titanic struck an iceberg.  Rev. Harper’s faith was about to be tested as never before.  When it appeared the ship was sinking, Rev. Harper reportedly rushed Nan and Jessie to the lifeboats.  He tearfully knelt down to kiss his daughter, knowing she soon might be an orphan.  As flares lit the dark sky, Rev. Harper turned to the panicking crowd and shouted, “Women, children and unsaved people into the lifeboats!”

More than 1,500 people sank below the frigid waters that night, Reverend Harper among them, but not before giving his lifebelt to a non-believer.  “I won’t need this,” he said, “because I’m not going down, I’m going up!”

In the water he swam to a young man who was nearing shock.  Between breaths, he asked, “Are you saved?”  The lad shook his head and drifted off.  When the current pulled him back, the reverend asked, “Are you saved yet?”  The young man said he couldn’t say.  Rev. Harper pleaded, “Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and thou shalt be saved,” then slipped into his watery grave.

Of the six survivors pulled from the water that night, one was the lad whom Rev. Harper directed his last words.  With two miles of water beneath him, the young man had decided to become a believer.

 


Ten terrific books about making decisions

 By Erin Nguyen, Children’s Department, Knox County Public Library

 

Which Would You Rather Be?
By William Steig
Reading level: PreK – 2nd
A boy and girl play an imaginative game with a magic rabbit who gives them entertaining questions to answer. Read more →